White woman is raped by a Haitian man – white patriarchy is to blame?

It has taken me two days to respond to this:

Ever committed to preserving the dignity of Black men in a world which constantly stereotypes them as violent savages, I viewed this writing as yet one more opportunity to fight “the man” on behalf of my brothers. That night, before I could finish the piece, I was held on a rooftop in Haiti and raped repeatedly by one of the very men who I had spent the bulk of my life advocating for.

Women are not the source of their oppression; oppressive policies and the as-yet unaddressed white patriarchy which still dominates the global stage are. Because women–and particularly women of color–are forced to bear the brunt of the Black male response to the Black male plight, the international community and those nations who have benefitted from the oppression of colonized peoples have a responsibility to provide women with the protection that they need.

…While I take issue with my brother’s behavior, I’m grateful for the experience…

To summarize Amanda’s story, a white woman goes to Haiti to work on a story on the plight of the black men. While she’s there, one of the black men she’s working to support rapes her repeatedly.

Now, forgive me for a more personal post than most, but I connect with the story on several different levels.

I empathize with her connection to Haiti. I love the country and the Haitian people. I have been there post-earthquake myself. I understand the compassion it brings out and the heavy emotion of the experience. The people there are incredible, their situation is heartbreaking. I described parts of the experience as having my heart ripped out of my chest. I pushed children off of me and ran away, leaving them in refugee camps, unsure if they even had parents that had survived. I held babies that are in all probability not alive anymore. Part of me stayed there.

However, as a believer in individuality and personal responsibility, my mission in Haiti was to remind them that they are loved – each and every one of them. That God knows who they are. That THEY are the ones that choose their reaction to their surroundings. I was not there long enough, and it is in my plans to go back longer term to do even more. I don’t know the answer to the plight in Haiti. How do you respond to such a level of desperation and pain? All I could do was do my best to love them. To bring their story to my circle of influence. I understand Amanda’s passion.

In addition, as a woman who has been raped, I understand the desperation and confusion – trying so hard to hard to figure out who is to blame. The answer isn’t always so apparent when you’re in that place. It’s hard to process the reality that evil like that can exist. It isn’t uncommon to find ways to explain it away. In this situation, Amanda has apparently determined that the white patriarchy is to blame.

My friend Melissa Clouthier wrote a fantastic piece in response to this story that is a must-read.

At the root of this absolution is a desire to push personal responsibility on the collective. Unfortunately, the collective was not in that room that night. One man raped one woman.

He alone is responsible. Excusing his behavior is a moral travesty. A society unravels when evil cannot be named and shamed.

Forget collective guilt. It is a collective shame that this sort of thinking permeates liberal thought. This belief in action will utterly destroy society should it go unchallenged.

Melissa’s words are so incredibly powerful, and I can’t make that point any better than she can. This is not about the “global hierarchy”. Every person has control over their actions. Amanda’s rapist is no different. Her response is astounding to most – how could she possibly blame the status of the black man in the world society for this? How was the man that beat her and abused her not at fault? We’re right to question that.

I believe the reason we have that reaction is because we have a fundamental understanding that people are responsible for their own actions. The minute we make the rest of the world accountable for the sins of one, everything becomes negotiable. Freedom works because we have a God-given sense of right and wrong. I shouldn’t even have to say this out loud, but rape is wrong, and her rapist is at fault. We cannot lose the ability to hold a man accountable for his crimes. If the collective Black Man is not responsible for his crimes, he cannot take credit for his success, and such a mentality demeans his existence.

17 Responses to White woman is raped by a Haitian man – white patriarchy is to blame?

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  2. Well done, Tabitha!

  3. “He didn’t care that I was a Malcolm X scholar.” I have to confess that I laughed when I read that bit. I feel guilty about that. I really wanted not to laugh, because there’s nothing funny about what that guy did to her.

    But what *was* funny was the unintentional glimpse she gave us into the thought process of so many people on the left. They see everything through the lens of politics. They tell themselves that the personal is political, and they’re genuinely shocked to find out that sometimes it isn’t.

    I’m sorry Ms. Kijera, but I think you’d be surprised at how few people really care that you’re a Malcolm X scholar. I’m sure this comes as a shock to you, because you probably socialize mainly with other leftists, and I imagine that most of them care deeply about the fact that you’re a Malcolm X scholar.

    OK, maybe we care a little. I mean, if someone introduces herself to me as a Malcolm X scholar, I’d probably find a polite excuse to avoid engaging her in conversation, but only to avoid subjecting myself to a pedantic lecture about Race In America(tm). Other than that, it wouldn’t make much difference.

    Probably 99% of men who would never consider raping a Malcolm X scholar would never consider raping anyone else either. Men who *do* rape aren’t making a political statement, they’re just soulless narcissistic bastards who lack either respect or empathy for women.

  4. Thank you Tabithia, for your compassion. While I disagree with some of your comments, I do at least appreciate your reasonable response, as well as your love for Haiti.

    amanda

  5. Amanda puts herself in harms way and is raped by a black savage.

    And it is the fault of white men everywhere.

    What are you – retarded ?

  6. A Left-winger

    I am left-wing and I agree with your comments regarding the rape. Although I am a man, and this may sound condescending, I hope Amanda understands that rape is never acceptable, under any circumstances. No political grudge or societal angst could ever justify rape. He didn’t do it because he was mad at the world, he did it because he just wanted pleasure at the expense of her consent; he is the only one to blame here.

    Regarding Melissa Clouthier, who says “It is a collective shame that this sort of thinking permeates liberal thought”, no it does not — at least not for every issue. Liberal and left-wing thought is varied and can include collective guilt on no, some, or many issues, but in this case it is not justified whatsoever. Shame on her for trying to use this as some pseudo-psychological attack on those who are left of center.

    And regarding your own comments on Haiti: “However, as a believer in individuality and personal responsibility, my mission in Haiti was to remind them that they are loved – each and every one of them. That God knows who they are. That THEY are the ones that choose their reaction to their surroundings” — that is absolutely disgusting.

    If you are so committed to personal responsibility, then why did you even go in the first place? Did you just go and say, “Hey, you know you guys have to do all this yourself, right?”, like you were some kind of enlightened moral guide? If you really wanted to help them, you could have cooked, cleaned, etc, to take the stress off of the rebuilding of the infrastructure.

    Instead, you make it sound like you’re talking to a child who has to clean their room instead of a people whose entire country was wrecked by an earthquake that killed hundreds of thousands of people. It is one of the most smug, self-absorbed things I’ve ever read.

  7. According to the Justice Department there are over 36,000 black on white rapes every year in the U.S. A number that continues to grow. This primate just wanted some white p###y just like the rest of ‘em. I use that term because I’ve heard it more than once personally.

  8. Liberals need to understand that White racism can exist in this world…but Blacks may be behaving savagely on their own regardless. In fact, the less White control there is in a region – the more savagely Blacks usually act. So if anything, there is an inverse correlation between White influence & Black savagery.

    In fact, this very truism has been witnessed wherever Blacks regain control of an area and Whites flee – like Detroit, Liberia, South Africa, etc. Without White K-gamers suppressing r-gaming crime…it quickly spirals out of control.

    Unfortunately, I think Amanda’s liberal dogma is so deeply-ingrained now, that it entirely reshapes her worldview (instead of letting her real world experience shape her dogma).

  9. The history of the human race in one sentence:

    “They worshiped and served created things rather
    than the Creator” ~ Romans 1:25

  10. Well done, Tabitha!

  11. This woman is as racist as the KKK. Racism against white people is no more justified than any other kind, and blaming whites for this is racism. The act of rape in no way helps a disadvantaged person. It does not feed them shelter them or clothe them. It is an act commited for nothing more than instant sexual gratification without caring about how it dehumanises the victim. A white man would never have the luxury of blaming his environment or upbringing for a crime like this and he certainly shouldn’t. The implication that racism is the cause for this primative and disgusting behavior of these men is why more and more white people are beginnig to view accusations of racism as nothing more than excuses.

  12. She walked into the snake pit and was surprised that she was bitten?
    Sadly, she’ll probably continue to fight the man for her brothers.
    I wish her safe returns but also urge her to keep it to herself when she runs into trouble again. There are more pressing matters in the world.

  13. The racism and “blame-the-victim” mentality all over the web in response to this news is astounding, evidence of the very evils the woman who experienced the rape is so bravely, openly working to heal. Also astounding to me she is “grateful for the experience,” but I think I can understand what she means. Where, exactly, did she excuse the man’s actions? Explanations are not excuses, and they are essential to solving problems. The prevalence of rape in the world is undoubtedly due to the global prevalence of the physical power structure and psychological mindset of patriarchy, which is intimately bound up with white racism, although not necessarily so. Patriarchy obviously dominates not just the white world but many cultures, including black cultures (as demonstrated by the experiences of the women of Haiti). It can be traced to early civilizations which have spread across the world.

    Humans are created by social circumstances. Protecting society from criminal behavior is essential, but simply punishing individuals is an ineffective, costly short-term solution. Concerted action by all citizens is needed to heal the situations that deform individuals, including putting criminals if at all possible into situations that protect society not only in the short-term but in the long-term by giving them the tools to make themselves into compassionate, trustworthy, hardworking individuals. No one succeeds or fails alone. Personal and societal responsibility are both essential.

    She said she was grateful for the experience because it allowed her to better understand the experience of all victimized women; in this way she courageously, creatively found a way to make the experience help and not hinder her commitment to lead a meaningful, dignified life of service. I’ve got to respect that, and in fact am somewhat amazed by it.

    Re: the chaos of African countries, Detroit, etc. Madness exists in primarily white societies, too. The imposition of apartheid by ongoing terrorism, for example. Imperialist colonialism. World wars. These are just the extremely unfortunate facts of the world. People of all races need to wake up to the historical and ongoing systemic injustices that have either benefited or oppressed them. These are just the facts of the world. Harmful behavior is obviously never excusable by anyone of any race. If it can be accurately understood, though, it can be changed, and the present and the future can be improved. The chaos of Detroit and failed African states is largely the fallout from ongoing social, economic, and political exploitation and separatism driven by greed and fear and somehow justified, in the minds of those who seek to benefit themselves by such means, by racism. Crime is linked to economic and social circumstances for people of all races. Most poor Americans and criminals are white. Rape, in common with all crime, is overwhelmingly white-on-white and black-on-black. This is not ideology, it is fact. Self-education, and recognition of our own ideological and personal prejudices, of which I have many, is the most important factor in improving life for all of us.

    When I got overwhelmed by the ugliness, I remind myself of all the progress that has been made over the last two centuries in our country through consistent effort by very brave and clear-thinking individuals in the face of the inconceivable evils of worker exploitation, racism, slavery, and apartheid, patriarchal subjugation of women, and rampant environmental poisoning. All that remains is for those of us who have benefited from their work to realize it has not, need not, and must not stop, and that the meaning of all our lives is to continue it.

  14. Had to add that the problems of African countries are obviously not all due to white interference, though colonialism was devastating, but also to attitudes, power structures, and even environmental conditions already present. To blame the total collapse of societies on the race of the members of the society is mind-blowing to me, however. Is the simple explanation somehow comforting in a large, intimidating world, one in which people of your race have done so much evil? Soviet bloc countries are and have experienced incredible disruption and suffering. Are they white enough for white racists to discount the citizens’ race as a factor? Perhaps not.

    When political and economic systems have been destroyed, very ugly things happen. Gang-like clan clashes in desperate attempts for protection and subsistence. Most devastatingly, in Africa, young men with no good prospects and no real guidance to male maturity due to collapse of ordinary life co-opted on a large scale by psychopaths (perhaps more numerous due to ongoing societal conditions?) who exploit their testosterone, alienation, and yearning to be men for their own power and wealth at any cost. In which, it must be added, global corporations, mostly arising from Western white former (?) colonial powers, collude for their own profit, with government’s tacit or active, though usually not publicized, approval. The belief in personal profit at any cost is common to warlords and shareholders.

    Throwing war criminals in jail, the conventional American response to egregious wrongdoing, is only the tip of the iceberg.

  15. Wikipedia:

    “According to United States Department of Justice document Criminal Victimization in the United States, there were overall 191,670 victims of rape or sexual assault reported in 2005.[16] Only 16% of rapes and sexual assaults are reported to the police (Rape in America: A Report to the Nation. 1992).[17] 1 of 6 U.S. women has experienced an attempted or completed rape. (according to Colorado Coalition Against Sexual Assault)[18] The U.S. Department of Justice compiles statistics on crime by race, but only between and among people categorized as black or white. The statistics for whites include hispanic and non hispanic whites combined. There were 194,270 white and 17,920 black victims of rape or sexual assault reported in 2006. Out of the 194,270 cases involving white victims, 50.6% had white offenders and 16.7% had black offenders, while the 36,620 black victims had a figure of 43% black offenders, the remaining being of other or unreported race, with a negligible number of white offenders.[19] ”

    16: ^ United States Department of Justice document, (table 26)

    19: ^ United States Department of Justice document, (table 42)

  16. Am I the only one who questions the authenticity of this tale? From the start it’s sounded way too contrived for this skeptic and survivor of chronic sexual assault. I’ve known so many women who’ve survived various dimensions of ‘rape’ from the complete projection version to the very real story your mind simply cannot grasp, and this one just sounds like it’s not even a projection, but a hoax. I’ve also traveled in leftist feminist circles and the only white women I know who try in any way to justify rape of white women by any male are those who aren’t the victims of it; my stories of being attacked by black men are simply me being hysterical or racist or ‘bipolar’ or some such. Same women would have a fit if a black man attacked or raped them. In a life time of interacting with these intersecting circles and memes I’ve never seen a white woman who was outraged at men’s rape even try to justify it in terms of white patriarchy. I’ve never seen one who blamed white men but not black for the same act.

    I think this woman wanted to be a martyr. I think she wanted to belong, and validate her existence as an ‘activist’ and woman there while at the same time furthering her cause. I think she’s lying.

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