Tag Archives: Equal Rights

Calling in Gay…

So, tomorrow is “Day without a Gay“. Or whatever you want to call it – basically, the gay community has decided that they need to prove their worth by showing the rest of us that we cannot function without them

My statement to the gay community is this: We know that you’re valuable. You’re people. You hold jobs, you have families. You, as a human being, are indispensable to those that love you, and are a part of our nation. Shirking the responsibilities that go along with that isn’t a way to prove anything. You want equality and acceptance – why do you try so hard to separate yourselves with special laws, and demonstrations like this? All you’re doing is increasing resentment in those that will have to pick up the slack for you tomorrow.

I suppose I understand the premise. But I’m pretty sure the world won’t stop spinning. After all, the estimated 15 million illegal immigrants called in illegal back in 2006 (I’m not sure who thought that one through…) and we’re still here.

When will people figure out that voluntary segregation does NOT beget equality?

Gay Marriage: An Equal Rights Disaster

Clearly, gay marriage is the hot topic right now. Suffice it to say that I think of marriage as a religious ceremony and I think the government needs to stay out of it – separation of church and state and all. However, now we are in this mess and the government has once again found themselves stuck between a rock and hard place, trying to mandate morality.

Here is my take: Were I in the position to vote on Prop 8, I would vote yes. However, I will spare you all the social con speech and preaching.  Here’s my take from an equal rights stance: The effects of defeating Prop 8 are too great. The slippery slope argument gets so overused that I’m not going to spend a lot of time on it, but I think it holds. After all, the core of the gay marriage argument is equality. How can we POSSIBLY be so discriminatory? What about the bisexual who wants to marry their female and male partners? Who are we to judge? And the girl that grows up and falls in love with her brother – why can’t they marry? Who are we to vote on love, right?

Beyond that, the backlash would be a huge infringement on the rights of, say, the other 95% of the population. Case in point: the pastors and rabbis that will perform the weddings. How long before churches and religious leaders get attacked and abused and sued for refusing to perform weddings that they will not support? The entire religious community is, at large, put in a horrible position. Do they fold, like eHarmony? No, the stakes are much, MUCH greater for someone who is a Christ follower, and is pastoring others. Eternity is involved.

And what about the rights of the states that have banned gay marriage? The majority of the people spoke, and by forcing states that have applied the ban to honor that marriage, you are infringing on their rights. They chose, as a group, to support traditional marriage.

Let me be clear: I am not denouncing civil unions. I support them. And there are no calls to impose bans on cohabitation and other aspects of the relationship. Freedom is still freedom, and God allows us to make our own choices, and their sin is no greater than my own. That said, allowing marriage in the gay community would be disastrous for equal rights, and our country as a whole.

I Am SO Not PC…

Okay. So. Hypothetically, let’s say that a business comes up with a model – a dating service targeting the Christian market, for example. They’re doing well – they become one of the largest dating services in the country using that model.

Now let’s say someone comes along and decides that they want to use this service. However, they don’t fit into the target. Wouldn’t the logical solution be to use another service? How about not giving the business to someone who can’t meet your needs?

No, clearly the logical solution there is to sue the company and force them to serve you, costing the taxpayers millions of dollars by using public legal representation, etc. This is akin to say, begging for a hamburger at Pizza Hut, and suing them until they start to supply hamburgers for everyone.

eHarmony was sued after not supplying same sex matches, and this week was forced to either allow same sex matches or create an equivalent site. They chose the latter.

Coming soon to EHarmony — Adam and Steve.

The Pasadena-based dating website, heavily promoted by Christian evangelical leaders when it was founded, has agreed in a civil rights settlement to give up its heterosexuals-only policy and offer same-sex matches.

EHarmony was started by psychologist Neil Clark Warren, who is known for his mild-mannered television and radio advertisements. It must not only implement the new policy by March 31 but also give the first 10,000 same-sex registrants a free six-month subscription.

“That was one of the things I asked for,” said Eric McKinley, 46, who complained to New Jersey’s Division on Civil Rights after being turned down for a subscription in 2005.

The company said that Warren was not giving interviews on the settlement. But attorney Theodore Olson, who issued a statement on the company’s behalf, made clear that it did not agree to offer gay matches willingly. “Even though we believed that the complaint resulted from an unfair characterization of our business,” Olson said, “we ultimately decided it was best to settle this case with the attorney general since litigation outcomes can be unpredictable.”

The settlement, which did not find that EHarmony broke any laws, calls for the company to either offer the gay matches on its current venue or create a new site for them. EHarmony has opted to create a site called Compatiblepartners.net.

Warren had said in past interviews that he didn’t want to feature same-sex services on EHarmony — which matches people based on long questionnaires concerning personality traits, relationship history and interests — because he felt he didn’t know enough about gay relationships.

I just don’t understand. Should heterosexuals sue the gay dating sites for discrimination and undermine their business? I wish eHarmony hadn’t submitted, but I understand why after witnessing the Prop 8 backlash. If the site cannot supply the service you need, go somewhere else. It’s that simple. How long until Muslims demand all the women wear head coverings on their eHarmony profiles? Check any Islamic dating site. Do they have same sex options? I did the research for you – the answer is no. Why are Christian sites expected to submit? So much for “equality”. I suppose tolerance is only required if you’re a minority.

This is almost as good as using taxpayer dollars to build transgender restrooms on college campuses.